• 23 years old and very nervous about any sexual activity?

    I'm a 23 year old male, and throughout the last five years (and beyond) I've made sure to avoid any sexual activity whatsoever. Part of me absolutely hates myself for having this mindset, but I have reasons as to why. Firstly, there's the pregnancy scare. Condoms are only like 97 percent effective, so... show more
    I'm a 23 year old male, and throughout the last five years (and beyond) I've made sure to avoid any sexual activity whatsoever. Part of me absolutely hates myself for having this mindset, but I have reasons as to why. Firstly, there's the pregnancy scare. Condoms are only like 97 percent effective, so that's still a big risk if something was to go wrong. Even if she claimed to be on the pill on top of using a condom, there's no guarantee that's totally effective either. I'm at a point in my life where I've secured an amazing job after five years of university, and frequently appear on various TV shows, so if a pregnancy scare was to occur, my life is basically finished. Secondly, I've always been concerned that if I was to become involved with someone and it went wrong, they'd try to attack me or my family (whether that be physical or psychological damage). My reputation means everything and I wouldn't want to shoot myself in the foot by causing someone to be malicious. I've been in a position where sexual activity has been on the cards many times, but I've always made excuses and left (whether it be at a party, on a Tinder date etc). I even had to end a short relationship as a result (I just couldn't bring myself to take the risk). My question is how I can actually get beyond this mental barrier and enjoy a part of life that guys my age are supposed to. I feel like I've missed out. Any advice from those who have been in a similar situation would be greatly appreciated!
    10 answers · 4 hours ago
  • Is there anyone born prior to 9/11 still living?

    I was born on June 14, 2001, it’s so crazy how everyone prior to 9/11 died.
    I was born on June 14, 2001, it’s so crazy how everyone prior to 9/11 died.
    11 answers · 5 hours ago
  • What to do if I don't like to work?

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  • Is homicide or suicide worse?

    Best answer: Homicide is worse because a person who has commited homicide took away a life that did not belong to them.
    Best answer: Homicide is worse because a person who has commited homicide took away a life that did not belong to them.
    8 answers · 17 hours ago
  • Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp?

    I need help real bad pls
    I need help real bad pls
    7 answers · 14 hours ago
  • How do you stop masterbaetion addiction?

    Best answer: If it is really taking hold of you, try finding out what fuels your drive. Pornography is one. Movies with a lot of revealing parts, hentai from anime. All these are affecting factors. Second, realize how adversely this addiction is affecting you. The feeling is good, but is it really always worth it? Look at how... show more
    Best answer: If it is really taking hold of you, try finding out what fuels your drive. Pornography is one. Movies with a lot of revealing parts, hentai from anime. All these are affecting factors. Second, realize how adversely this addiction is affecting you. The feeling is good, but is it really always worth it? Look at how much time you are spending, how many references and links you have to sites that you really like. Third, realize how it is affecting the way you are thinking and feeling. Can you even tell lust from love? Finally, if you go through all these steps, confront yourself. Ask yourself, is masturbation your master (something you can't do without) or are you your own master? If you are your own master, prove it to yourself! The first day is usually the hardest, but the days that follow are like a clogged drain finally opening up and the drain slowly but surely going away. Sometimes though, you really can't help it, even when you feel in control, and you get a sudden urge. These are even harder to control, but you can either resist or submit. (In this case though, I believe it is completely fine).
    However, you must also think about this issue when it comes to having a partner. Will you have the energy for her if you keep masturbating? I hope this helps you out :)

    P.S.: By the way, it's spelled Masturbation*.
    20 answers · 1 day ago
  • Discussion question: Why do you think suicides happen?

    Best answer: Depression is a cycle of negative thinking, possibly caused by real events, situations that people feel they can't get out of, like family, kids, jobs, abusive relationships, unrequited love, general problems like health issues, weight issues, self image issues, drugs. The drugs used to treat depression, like... show more
    Best answer: Depression is a cycle of negative thinking, possibly caused by real events, situations that people feel they can't get out of, like family, kids, jobs, abusive relationships, unrequited love, general problems like health issues, weight issues, self image issues, drugs. The drugs used to treat depression, like most other mental illnesses are greatly lacking in effectiveness. I mean, you can basically give them something, and the same thing might send one person insane, when another acts real happy. I mean, I think with medications, it's a last resort, but people should possibly get more choice about what they want to do, with everything as a potential option. I mean some people say small amounts of magic mushrooms work well for depression. Of course they're usually the same people who say weed cures cancer.
    15 answers · 21 hours ago
  • What is the strongest evidence that the moon landing was real?

    Even if you can explain the photos are legit and things like the Van Allen belts what's the strongest evidence that refutes all the claims about it being a CIA/Hollywood job I'm neutral and don't have a strong opinion either way
    Even if you can explain the photos are legit and things like the Van Allen belts what's the strongest evidence that refutes all the claims about it being a CIA/Hollywood job I'm neutral and don't have a strong opinion either way
    16 answers · 1 day ago
  • Am i worthless? Dead beat? Good for nothing?

    I'm 19 years old. And my daily life is waking up, be on the internet, eat, go back and shut myself in my room, eat, sometimes clean the house. I only go outside to get the dog out, i only get out of my room to get food. nothing more. Thats my daily life Why am i still living with my dad and in his house? i... show more
    I'm 19 years old. And my daily life is waking up, be on the internet, eat, go back and shut myself in my room, eat, sometimes clean the house. I only go outside to get the dog out, i only get out of my room to get food. nothing more. Thats my daily life Why am i still living with my dad and in his house? i failed graduating highschool 4 times. its all because of depression and my soft heart that gets stabbed even when my own dad is giving me this bullshlt 'tough love' i failed because im not like the rest of those extroverted, confident, happy, rich, popular, positive people. i failed graduating because i was/am not confident, keep thinking negatively and depressed... im a failure so i wanna know if im a worthless daughter? am i worthless? am i a dead beat? am i a good-for-nothing? am i disappointing my dad? should i leave and live in the streets and let people kill me?
    18 answers · 4 days ago
  • Plz no hate I’m depressed enough... so I want to tell my mom I am self harming and suicidal, should I.?

    So I am cutting my self as self harm and I am suicidal I don’t know what to do I tell my mom everything but I’m scared if I tell her this she will think lower of me and think I’m crazy which I guess i am.
    So I am cutting my self as self harm and I am suicidal I don’t know what to do I tell my mom everything but I’m scared if I tell her this she will think lower of me and think I’m crazy which I guess i am.
    19 answers · 4 days ago
  • What animal are noodles made of?

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  • Do you find those who admit to being willing to die for the United Kingdom and its defective system funny?

    XD Desirable attributes that the United Kingdom's inherent qualities threaten (notice the word 'inherent'), including but not limited to: 1) Maximum protection against internal threats (lack of political or cultural safeguards against subversive elements, lack of proper and rigid racial and cultural... show more
    XD Desirable attributes that the United Kingdom's inherent qualities threaten (notice the word 'inherent'), including but not limited to: 1) Maximum protection against internal threats (lack of political or cultural safeguards against subversive elements, lack of proper and rigid racial and cultural definition (which have massive tactical value), etc) 2) Maximum protection against external threats (Islam and Islamification with all of their deadly and destructive effects, South Asian child rape gangs (1,500+ victims), belligerent African activity, hostile espionage, alien tribal subversion (How long before a 2009 Fort Hood Shooting-like attack?), grievance-mongering, etc). These aspects are all enabled by uninhibited racial heterogeneity and continue to be so. 3) Measures against cultural degradation (degradation includes promotion and embracement of tattoos, piercings, uncouth behaviour, obsession with trivial aspects, immodest dressing, etc, with no relevant regulatory bodies to monitor the situation). 4) Maximum general physical attractiveness (assimilating foreign racial composition, with the exception of Scandinavian, into the national population, without adequate preservation measures (which is also a genocidal act), threatens this) The result: Severe reduction of proportion of seriously good-looking people in society. The proportion continues to decline (more rapidly now, with
    7 answers · 2 days ago
  • My therapist dosen't like me?

    Best answer: therapists have to find ways to be objective, all the time. they do things that you wont understand yet. dont worry about THEM liking YOU. you are the one who decided how they feel while your insurance or pocket pays them. be aware that they will make you feel uncomfortable, this is a tactic. they want to see who... show more
    Best answer: therapists have to find ways to be objective, all the time. they do things that you wont understand yet. dont worry about THEM liking YOU. you are the one who decided how they feel while your insurance or pocket pays them. be aware that they will make you feel uncomfortable, this is a tactic. they want to see who you are. and how you react
    the fact that you think maybe they dont like you, reveals that you fear peoples opinions immensely in general.
    keep going. therapy isnt meant to be comfortable.
    24 answers · 4 days ago
  • AM I DYING?? IM 19 PLEASE HELP ME IM SO SCARED?

    my right shoulder hurts super right on top of it down my back just a tiny bit and almost to my collar home every time I take a big deep breath...the day before I had bad anxiety all day and was air hungry and breathing heavy..now this pain happened yesterday and started all day and didn't go away...my mom said... show more
    my right shoulder hurts super right on top of it down my back just a tiny bit and almost to my collar home every time I take a big deep breath...the day before I had bad anxiety all day and was air hungry and breathing heavy..now this pain happened yesterday and started all day and didn't go away...my mom said my muscles are very tight there and yeah...I'm scared why foes my shoulder hurt when I take a deep breath? Am I dying of a heart attack or blood clot? It started yesterday and now is still here
    9 answers · 7 hours ago
  • Does My stepmom have a right to read my diary? I can't sleep?

    Last week I caught my stepmom reading my diary. so I bought another diary and wrote bunch made up stories. Because upset me that she was reading my personal throughts. I hid my real diary and put the fake diary in my dresser drawer. I made up stories about doing drugs and having sex with multiple guys because I... show more
    Last week I caught my stepmom reading my diary. so I bought another diary and wrote bunch made up stories. Because upset me that she was reading my personal throughts. I hid my real diary and put the fake diary in my dresser drawer. I made up stories about doing drugs and having sex with multiple guys because I wanted to make my stepmom mad for being nosy and reading my personal thoughts. My Dad was really mad and my stepmom was crying. I did saw my dad and My real diary and I got grounded for two months. They took my diaries from me. I feel awful because I hurt my dad and stepmom. I feel awful about making my stepmom cry. I did apologize to them both. I am an awful daughter.
    22 answers · 3 days ago
  • How do you cope with the fact that we are all going to die, everyone you ever knew or will know, and then yourself?

    Every idle or un-idle moment is another moment toward the death of everyone living now. That no matter how you occupy yourself or distract or divert; this fundamental truth of biological fate awaits.
    Every idle or un-idle moment is another moment toward the death of everyone living now. That no matter how you occupy yourself or distract or divert; this fundamental truth of biological fate awaits.
    9 answers · 24 hours ago